Achieving
Satisfaction
in
All Areas of Your Life
Biology-onoline.org
defines personal satisfaction as "a subjective
evaluation, judgment, or attitude expressed by an
individual with respect to the attainment of certain
goals or needs based on his level of aspiration or
expectation." In other words, how does your life
measure up to what you expected or hoped it would
be?
Although psychologists are best known for examining
people's emotions and mental well-being,
they
know that when the "whole person" is balanced
physically, spiritually, mentally, and emotionally,
the person has a much better chance to feel a sense
of personal satisfaction with his or her life.
For decades now psychologists and medical doctors
have agreed that regular physical activity is a terrific
antidote for depression. Rather than producing exhaustion,
physical activity makes us feel more energized. If
you have a family, just getting everyone off the couch
and out into the yard or park on a regular basis can
strengthen not only your bodies, but the emotional
bonds of your relationships as well. Looking and feeling
better naturally leads to improved self-esteem.
Spiritual health is another part of the balanced and
satisfied person. For some of us, the word "spiritual"
is directly connected with a specific religion's beliefs
and with the practice of those beliefs. Others say
"I'm not religious, but I'm spiritual."
In other words, they may not belong to any particular
church, but they still feel a connection with something
greater than themselves. Whatever your belief, this
connection can be a powerful motivator toward personal
satisfaction and balance.
Your job should be a source of mental and emotional
satisfaction. People who feel that their jobs have
a meaningful purpose express more job satisfaction
than those who don't. Managers often tell their employees
about company "missions" and extol "the
vision thing," but even if you believe in your
company's mission, you may feel your own responsibilities
have little real purpose. If you don't have the authority
to make decisions affecting how the company operates,
or if you are hounded about reaching quotas but not
praised when you do, working for even the best company
can be frustrating. Too many people work unhappily
for years at the same jobs, complaining steadily about
how bad it is, and thinking that some day in the future
things will change.
But
living in the future can mean your present is wasted.
It's extremely important to get present-oriented.
Think of success and satisfaction as a road you are
on right now-not a far-off destination that never
seems any closer. You're more likely to take the steps
that will move you forward to harmony and balance
in all areas of your life.
Making the transition from standing still to moving
forward begins with a positive attitude-about yourself
and your capabilities as well as toward the people
at work, your family members, and people with whom
you socialize. Relationships with other people have
all four aspects of personal satisfaction: physical,
mental, emotional and spiritual. Instead of concentrating
on the negative, look for the good in those around
you and in situations you encounter on a daily basis.
If a problem presents itself, focus on the solution,
not the problem. Most problems offer opportunities
to learn something new. Instead of yelling at your
computer, figure out how to solve the problem. Instead
of shouting at your children or spouse, talk to them-or
go for a walk or bike ride to burn off some steam
and then talk about the problem and its solution.
You'll find that positive thinking and positive
action empowers you to move forward past problems
and to keep moving on along the success road.
If
you feel you are in a cycle of failure, set a small
goal you know you can reach with just a little effort.
If you've been talking about doing something for a
long time, but you haven't done it, take one step
toward that goal and allow yourself to feel good about
the accomplishment. Renewed self-esteem will propel
you on to your next goal.
Why is self-esteem so important? Because if you have
a negative self-image, you are likely to become immobilized
in an "I better not try it because I probably
can't do it" kind of mindset. Of
course,
if you don't try, you'll never know what the outcome
would be, and you'll remain stuck in the kind of mental
and emotional state that leads to boredom, depression,
and more immobilization. Your very first goal may
be to learn to like, accept, know, and help yourself.
Setting goals often involves making choices, and making
choices usually involves a certain degree of risk,
but if you don't make your own choices, you're a slave
to the ones other people-or life in general-have made
for you. Certain things can't be changed, but
you should try your best to change anything within
your power that is negatively affecting your life.
Tap
into the energy source that is within you. Have faith
in yourself. Have the courage to set your own goals,
make your own choices, and take control of your life.
If dissatisfaction is bringing you down, you can take
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